Be Loved for Who You Really Are: How the Differences Between Men and Women Can Be Turned into the Source of the Very Best Romance You'll Ever Know by Ph.D. Judith Sherven, Ph.D. Jim Sniechowski
Be Loved for Who You Really Are: How the Differences Between Men and Women Can Be Turned into the Source of the Very Best Romance You'll Ever Know
Author: Ph.D. Judith Sherven, Ph.D. Jim Sniechowski
Title: Be Loved for Who You Really Are: How the Differences Between Men and Women Can Be Turned into the Source of the Very Best Romance You'll Ever Know
ISBN10: 1559276770
ISBN13: 978-1559276771
Format: .PDF .EPUB .FB2
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Publisher: Macmillan Audio; Abridged edition (October 19, 2001)
Language: English
Size pdf: 1319 kb
Size epub: 1892 kb
Rating: 4.3 ✪
Votes: 286
Category: Self-Help
Subcategory: Relationships
Differences are the number-one reason why couples break up. But in Be Loved for Who You Really Are, the new book from bestselling husband-and-wife psychology team Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, Ph.D., they demonstrate how differences can be turned into a powerful source of lifelong love and romance.

No matter how much two people may have in common, when they commit to a relationship they soon dis-cover all the ways they are different from one another. Failure comes when they struggle to get each other to fit into their expectations of how things "should" be, treating their differences as something to be fixed, in an effort to obtain an unrealistic fantasy relationship. Then, when reality doesn't match the fantasy, the relationship falls apart. "In Be Loved . . . we celebrate those very real and unavoidable differences any two people run into when they are in a committed relationship," says Sniechowski. "We go beyond gender differences. It is not about rules or about coming from different planets but about how two people can successfully co-create their own very personal and unique relationship."

Using case histories and examples from their own relationship, Judith & Jim show that, con-trary to common belief, differences should not be a problem. "Differences can be turned into opportunities for intimate and spiritual growth in a relationship," stresses Sherven. "They can even be turned into a tremendous foundation for keeping love and romance alive."

The authors have helped close to 100,000 couples and singles by teaching them to turn the divisive wedge that drives most relationships apart into a powerful tool to take their relationship to a higher level. "By under-standing what real love requires, no one need ever fail again," says Sniechowski.

Be Loved for Who You Really Are outlines a natural and predictable path that love requires, called the arc of love. Within this arc are four inevitable passages that enable the reader to better understand the challenges and pitfalls they will encounter, and to not confuse conflicts and tough times with disaster or failure. The four passages are:

*A Glimpse of What Is Possible, the wonderful time of falling in love when you actually see the per-fection of your partner.

*The Clash of Differences, when your love is tested through the inevitable conflicts that emerge from your differences.

*The Magic of Differences, when those very same differences allow you to be respected and loved for the person you truly are.

*And The Grace of Deep Intimacy, when the passionate wonder of the beginning is now yours, through and through, and your love touches everyone you encounter.

The idea of a "passage" is used because as love evolves between two people it requires that they face into and grow through a number of challenges. Those challenges are necessary for them to mature in the wisdom of their love and intimacy and in the day-to-day relationship they are co-creating.

Unlike most relationship books, which are written primarily for women, Be Loved for Who You Really Are speaks to women and men equally. Judith & Jim underscore the fact that men are just as hungry for this kind of life-changing information.